How to Lose Friends the Fast Way
DELILAH prodded Samson day after day until he was tired to death. So he told her everything. (Judges 16:16-17)
Delilah's name along with the words treachery and beauty go hand in hand as they say. We know the first quality because of her infamous treatment of Samson. We infer the second because this world-class strongman could not resist her. In one important way, she was the stronger of the two.
To her it seemed like such a game. This physical manly man, so much stronger than she, would be putty in her hands. When the deed was done, she taunted him, "Samson, the Philistines are upon you!" Wasn't she surprised to discover that with his hair clipped, she was his equal in physical strength, too? Delilah is a study in how NOT to treat people, how NOT to develop friendships, how NOT to nurture intimacy. Do the opposite of Delilah, and you're probably on the right track.
Are you the listener people need? Are you the steady friend few people have! Delilah treated people like sport. We need always to relate as ambassadors of God's love.
If you have trouble forming friendships, try concentrating less on your troubles and more on the potential of each day to reveal God's blessing to you. When that spirit defines you, the phone will start ringing.
Could it be that Delilah also was the woman who prompted teh words in Proverbs: "For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil" [Proverbs 5:3]?
Two other verses that come to mind here... Pr 27:15 "A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike". And also: Pr 19:13 "A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping."
Deceive people and they will abandon you, Encourage people and God will bless you with a crowd of Friends. Deceive the ones you love and you will find yourself alone.